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18 IMPORTANT LESSONS I HAVE LEARNT THROUGH OUT MY EXISTENCE


Hey lovelies,
I know I owe you guys an apology, I'M SORRY.

I turned +1 on the 9th day of August, 2019. It was a rollercoaster of emotions for me, my life hasn't been an "amazing" experience so far. But, I'm grateful still.

So, in the spirit of my new age, here are 18+¹ things I have learnt since my existence.

1. BE CONTENT
Contentment is a virtue, uphold it.

2. DO YOU
This phrase sadly, is now a cliché. But sincerely doing you is the best experience of life you'll ever have.

3. DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFFS
Sweating the small stuff is my middle name. Anyways, don't be like me. It's okay to have a bad hair day, or an emotional breakdown, they are normal, won't last long.

4. TRUST ABSOLUTELY NO ONE
Trust is very fragile, so be careful who you give it to. Personally I'll advise you give it to yourself and your maker only.

5. BE CONFIDENT
Need I say much? Stand your guard.

6. BE ASSERTIVE
Know what you want, let your yes be yes and your no no.

7. ABOVE ALL, GOD FIRST
TBH, I haven't been taking God and church very seriously. But I acknowledge him, his presence and all he does. He should come first, before anything else.

8. LEARN, UNLEARN AND RELEARN
Learn new things, unlearn some old knowledge and relearn unlearned knowledge. Thank me later.

9. RESPECT PEOPLE'S VIEWS/OPINIONS
Everybody have different perspectives to different things, no 2 people think alike. If someone says yes to what you say no to, respect it. You don't have to force them to say no alongside you.

10. DON'T JUDGE A BOOK MY IT'S COVER
I've had bad experiences with people during our first meeting, after which I got to know them better and discovered that they were awesome. Don't conclude about people before you get to know them.

11. BE OBSERVANT
I was not a great observer, I really didn't care if the color of the taxi I was in was blue or red, it was pretty much not my concern what the driver looks like or what he was wearing. After the last bad incident I had, everything changed I observe different things now, from people's facial expressions to an ant walking on the road (literally).

12. TAKE YOUR TIME
Don't jump in to things care freely, ask your self questions, give yourself time. Move at your pace, don't rush things because others are there and you are not.

13. SUPPORT PEOPLE
You don't necessarily need to do this financially, you can support people emotionally and morally. If you don't have money to patronize a friend in business, publicize for them, comment on and share their business page. They'll appreciate you.

14. LEARN TO LET GO
The first step to healing is letting go. How ready you are to let go, determines how ready you are to heal. If you ever feel like talking to someone, I'm here (You can reach me via email or Instagram).

15. LEARN TO MAKE DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN
I don't think this needs explanation. It only shows responsibility (together with when you own up to them).

16. BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY AND DIFFERENCIATE YOUR WANTS AND NEEDS
Needs and wants are 2 different things, don't misplace their priorities.

17. LEARN TO BE LESS DEPENDENT
This will help you a great deal, not just financial independence, emotional and psychological independence are included.

18. DON'T LET NO ONE SHUT YOU DOWN
As much as this seems similar to 5 & 6, I wanted to make sure to emphasize on it. Your opinion matters. If you find yourself among people who always shut you down, then it's time to have a new circle, because your current one doesn't value you.

+1 CONFRONT YOUR FEARS
One way or the other, our fears have a way of coming through, when you confront your fears, they wouldn't be fears again.

Let me know if you are going to adapt some or any of these lessons, and which one in the comment section.

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I'M BACK, WHY I LEFT || LIFE UPDATE


Hollup! Hollup!! Hollup!!!
Don't even come for me, were you expecting me to stay off social media for 1 year talk more of 2?

I missed you guys,I can't,I just couldn't help it fam

WHY I LEFT?
I started 2019 not quite well,I was scared,I was confused, if you read my first post this year you'll know what I'm  talking about(read it here).

I was feeling really down mentally, I was feeling drained psychologically,and I was doing as well as I would love to academically.
So I decided to take a break, from social media, from the outside world, and sought my self out, give my self time to get together again.

Well, at a point it was working. Then it stopped working, I felt desserted, I felt left out, I felt like I was living under the rocks, so gradually I started with YouTube, then WhatsApp, then Instagram and now the blog.

While I was on the break, I figured out that I was only giving myself excuses and not owning up to my wrongs. I blamed social media for literally everything, but it wasn't social media, it was me.
I couldn't deal with my procrastination,and it was getting the best of me.

However, I'm back now and gradually curbing  procrastination from my life.
WHO MISSED ME?
I MISSED YOU TOO
I also missed writing blogposts so much so, that I drafted out over 45 blogposts for when I come back.
I pray I don't crawl back into my procrastination phase (PRAY FOR ME GUYS).

So, I'll write soonest, till then, let me know what you have been up to in the comments, .

If you ever miss me here, try checking me out on IG @thepsychoblogger

LOVE  ❤❤
TEZZY PJ



TOP 5 GIFT IDEAS FOR HIM || VALENTINE's DAY GIFT IDEAS, SUITABLE FOR ANY OCCASION

Dear girls,
               Gone are the days of Singlets, Under wears or Handkerchief as gifts for a Male folk, it is time to upgrade. Be it your dad, brother, husband, fiance, or who ever it is, these gift ideas are perfect for any occasion.

1. FOOT WEARS
Who doesn't love a good footwear? Even guys do love them. You can get a shoe, flats/slip ons or sandals. Be sure to know his style, and steal his size before you get them and trust me he'll be grateful for it.

2. WRIST WATCHES
A whole lot of guys do not really fancy jewelries, but they treasure Watches. You can get him a nice wrist watch, from his favourite designer, or a nice one that you can afford. He'll absolutely love it.

3. BOOKS
You don't always have to be too fancy, when you can be realistic and romantic at the same time. Not all guys are fans of books, but it would be great if at least one is from you. You can get him a success oriented book, a motivational book, a novel (for the ones that love novels), a book that will help them improve in their field of work or interest, and watch him cherish you.

4. A WHOLE OUTFIT
Yep, a whole outfit. You should know his dress sense, his style and the things he'll like to wear and get him a whole outfit. Literally dress him up. But make sure it is something he'll love, so he doesn't tell you THANK YOU and dumb them. You can have him wear it on a date, or an occasion that you two might be attending.

5. PERFUME
Who doesn't love it when their "man" smells nice? Absolutely No One. You can get him a refill of his current perfume, or one of his old ones that he loves, or you both love, or even a perfume you'd love on him, so you can steal some sniffs from him.

FUN FACT: Just like the female version of this post, I drafted this one year ago .

Let me know in the comments if I am missing something. And if this was helpful, let me know in the comments .

                        HAPPY VAL's DAY
                             TEZZY PJ
                                  XOXO
                             ❤❤❤❤


TOP 5 +² GIFT IDEAS FOR HER || VALENTINE's DAY GIFT IDEAS, SUITABLE FOR ANY OCCASION

IN THE SPIRIT OF VALENTINE ❤❤

I want to believe that I have some males reading my blog(please help me show yourself in the comment section).

Just incase you don't know, females love to receive gifts from loved ones, the males to be precise.

Whether it's your Mom, Girlfriend, Wife, Fiancee, Sister, or Bestfriend you intend to give a gift this Val's Day, these 5+² gift ideas will be perfect for them.

1. GIFT SETS
There are so many gift sets around this time of the year. You can get them an ARAMI ESSENTIALS 3,4,5 or 6 item Set. You could also get them some gift sets from Jumia or Konga. Or maybe a full make up kit (If she'll fancy it).

2. SHOES
Females love to dress in things you got them, especially if they are in love with the items. Getting an amazing footwear for her is not a bad idea at all, Just be sure to know her size, so you don't get a wrong size.

3. A DRESS
I personally love it when my dad or brother gets me a dress, the best part is how they know the kind of dresses I love. How much more my boyfriend or husband? (till then sha). Make sure not to buy something that is too big, and ask for a return policy before purchasing, so you could return it if it doesn't fit.

4. A BOOK
90% of girls read books, more than the male folks do (don't even argue with me ). She'll love an amazing read. So get her something captivating and interesting, like Every Woman, You Are A Bad Ass, Feminist Don't Wear Pink and other lies,(Yes I love books).

5. JEWELRY
We love jewelries too, a pair of earrings, a neck piece or a wrist set won't be a bad idea. You want to make sure you get what she'll love. For example; don't get a neck piece if they don't like anything on their neck (like me).

+ Don't keep the flowers away we absolutely love them. There is nothing wrong if you send her a bouquet of roses, daises or lilies. We will fall in love with it. Thank you.

+ Scents: we totally love it when you steal sniffs from us. You want to make her smell like you want? then get her a perfume you'll both love.

NOTE THAT: Val's Day is a day for the commemoration of St. Valentine a lover (of God) and giver. So celebrate it wisely.

FUN FACT: I wrote this post a year ago after Val's day,so I couldn't post it then.

Let me know what you think about this gift ideas. If there is something I am missing, help me add it in the comments. If this was helpful, put it down in the comment section too.

                        HAPPY VAL's DAY
                             TEZZY PJ
                                  XOXO
                             ❤❤❤❤


2019 THE MOVIE (S1 Ep3) || WITH NAIMA OF KLASSIQUE DEE BLOG


8 of 365 days. 2019 and January is 1 week and a day gone.

Hey guys, it is Ep3 of '2019 THE MOVIE' with Naima. Naima is an online friend, I first met her (online) in 2018 when she reached out to me for her Christmas tag, I was more that excited. So far, I love her more than I know about her.
Let's just dive into this.

First of all, let's get to know you. What's your name, what do you do?
I  am Naima, a graduate of  Finance. I run a Food / confectionery service, Klassique kitchen. As a hobby i run Klassique dee blog.

How was your holidays?
I dont even know if i would term it "holidays"
It all seem like my normal every day life.

In general, define your 2018.
Bitter Sweet

What was your favorite song(s) from 2018?
Thats going to be very hard, am very old school and i dont keep up with music trends. Probably before i hear a song, its probably 6 to 8 months old.
But since i have to answer this i'll say CNCO ft Little mix - Regetton

What was your favorite movie(s) from 2018?
Wheww.... Am not so sure, if the movies i watched were produced in 2018...lol.
But to be safe, i really enjoyed 'Game Night'

What was your favorite/recommended book of 2018?
Hmmm...I'll always recomend all Books by Dan Brown, Catherine Coulter and Virigina Andrews.They are the real deals. ( i cant just pick one, its a hard choice )

Any regrets from 2018?
None, every mistake was a lesson well understood

What were your greatest achievements of 2018?
Graduating from school, Starting my blog. It made me learn to focus on what i want,no matter how it turns out,and stop thinking of what every one feels ,and how they would react.

What lessons did you learn from 2018?
Hmmm, a lot actually. But most importantly, life is too short for bullshit, be happy, take risks and stay away from bad vibes.

What are you leaving behind in 2018 and taking with you to 2019?
Taking the entire package in 2019, but this time the spirit of forgiveness will be going with me.

Do you make new year resolutions, pen them down and keep to them?
Lol....Hell no, i dont even try it.
Trust me, i'll break them 30 minutes after i make them. I just go with the flow and lean on God for guidance.

What are your biggest fears come 2019?
Failure

What are your thoughts on the Election?
Election ke....Believe me, this election is one thing i am not intrested in..If Nigeria votes wrongly, we would all suffer,and vice versa.

What do you think about feminism in 2019?
I think people should be more enlighten about feminism and what it means, that way 2019 feminism would be practical and i believe the male folks will begin to respect women more.

2019 as a movie, can we get a trailer?
Hahahahah...Nah, my entire team and i, are still working on production....lol.

What is your drive for 2019?
Lets just say, my drive for 2019 is proving myself to myself.

What is your advice to youths, and 'up-comers' in your field?
Be passionate, lean on God, don't give in to any negativity, and of course be happy. Being happy makes everything almost perfect

You can find Naima on
Instagram @klassique_dee
Twitter @klassique_dee
Facebook @klassique dee

Check out her blog www.klassiquedee.wordpress.com

Don't forget to drop your comments guys.
XOXO
TEZZY ❤

Note: I tried uploading pictures with my phone, but they wouldn't come up. I'll updated this post and add the pictures when I get home (I am still on holidays, away from home).

2019 THE MOVIE (S1 Ep2) || WITH SB CRUX



6 0f 365 days, First Sunday of the year.

Hey Guys, how are y'all enjoying the year so far? (gist me in the comments)
This series is over due, but i am glad i finally got to start it. So in case you don't know what this is about, '2019 THE MOVIE' is a new series on my blog for the new year. We all know that 2019 is hyped (yes, or am i the only one?), so i thought, lets take a sneak peak of what it would be like for some special individuals.

So for Episode 2 (Episode 1, where I wrote a few things read here) I'll be getting the amazing SBCRUX to say few things. Enjoy.


First of all, let's get to know you. What's your name, what do you do?
I'm Supernatural Being CRUX, SB CRUX. I'm a lot of things, but a Singer and writer.

How was your holidays?
Mixed Emotions.

In general, define your 2018.
This year was pretty challenging and also eye opening.

What was your favourite song(s) from 2018?
LITT by SuperbCrux

What was your favourite movie(s) from 2018?
Night School, featured Kevin Hart.

What was your favourite/recommended book of 2018?
I read a couple of Books, I'll say Wisdom by Myles Munroe.

Any regrets from 2018?
No regrets

What were your greatest achievements of 2018?
Defining Myself Completely

What lessons did you learn from 2018?
Life has never given US  what we required. We take what we want.

What are you leaving behind in 2018 and taking with you to 2019?
Toxic relationships in 2018. Going into 2019 With a bit aggression towards goal achievements.

Do you make new year resolutions, pen them down and keep to them?
I don't do new year Resolutions

What are your biggest fears come 2019?
To control the fame. I don't wanna be too occupied and not have time for the real world.

What are your thoughts on the Election?
Well, God help Nigeria

What do you think about feminism in 2019?
We have absolutely no idea what Feminism really is, that's my problem.

2019 as a movie, can we get a trailer?
Drum rolls drum rolls drum rolls tada 2019 🤣🤣

What is your drive for 2019?
Family, I wanna be better for them. That's my Drive.

What is your advice to youths, and 'up-comers' in your field?
Keep pushing it won't be easy but it's attainable.

Find SBCrux on Facebook @Superbcrux
                         Instagram @Superbcrux
                             Twitter @Superbcrux

Let me know what you think about this in the comments.
XOXO
Tezzy ❤

Note: I tried uploading pictures with my phone, but they wouldn't come up. I'll updated this post and add the pictures when I get home (I am still on holidays, away from home).

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! || 2019 THE MOVIE (SEASON 1; EPISODE 1)

1 of 365 days *deep sigh*

HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS.

I wanted to do a very sweet 365 of 365 2018 days on Instagram, and a wonderful 1 of 365 days here. But I am pouring half of my hearts content instead.

I kept checking my phone in church, I was waiting for 00:00 am, 1st January 2019. It was 11:40pm, 31st December 2018.

My heart has never beaten as fast as it did today. At exactly 00:05, the pastor asked us to wish everybody beside us a HAPPY NEW YEAR. I was numb, my fears were catching up with me. I haven't been afraid of any year before, as I am for 2019 right now.

I am scared of almost everything in 2019.

2019 is over hyped.

I had fears for this year from September.
I feel like my heart is too heavy
I just have all sought of feelings.

I just feel like crying my whole life out.

I watched people shout and laugh and pray.

I couldn't even cry my cry. I am just here, in the middle of everything, with a burdened heart and no new year vibe.

Anyways, I'm starting a new year tag today.

Don't forget to subscribe, so that you can get to know how your favourite bloggers, influencers and artistes feel about 2018 and 19.

Happy New Year again guys.
Let me go and soak my bed (the time is 1:35 am).


6 NEGATIVE HABITS YOU NEED TO QUIT BEFORE THIS YEAR (2018) RUNS OUT



HAPPY NEW MONTH FAM
I really can't believe that this year is legit O-V-E-R, with just 28 days remaining. It went by super faster than I wanted.
I guess some of the reasons being that I practise a whole lot of negative habits which I'm not supposed to.
So I have made up a list of 6 habits you and I are practising that needs to be left behind, while crossing over to next year.  A lot of us are guilty of having some of these habits, but we find it casual and part of our everyday life which isn't supposed to be so.

1. PROCRASTINATION
It is high time you dump this attitude in the trash can and move your ass. If you don't deal with it, it will deal with you and mess your life up in a way you never expected. There is no better time to do what you want to do than now.

2. LIVING IN THE PAST
Forget it, you can't change it, So why hold on to it? I'm sorry about what ever happened then, but you have to let it go or let it control your future. Holding on to something that is in your past will only blur what's in the future, Focus on what is ahead.

3. TRYING TO PLEASE OTHERS
I learnt in Economics, way back in my senior secondary school class 1 days, that humans are insatiable. So why try to put off a volcano with a bucket of water? If John said he doesn't like the pen you are using, ignore him if you change the pen he'll tell you the other one was much better than the present one. They'll always have something to say. As far as you are comfortable, and what you are doing isn't illegal or a crime, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

4. DOUBTING YOURSELF
The worse thing you'll ever do is doubt yourself, it will make you miserable. It will only ruin your self trust and self esteem. Even if you are wrong, stand to be corrected. Do not let anyone make you doubt yourself. If you are not sure of what you picked or answered in an exam or test, ask God to help you out. If you are sure, don't let anyone make you have a second thought, no matter who they are.

5. WORRYING TOO MUCH
Worrying will do you more harm than good. If you have a problem and you have a solution, why worry? If you have a problem and you don't have a solution, why worry? (every problem has a solution though). You need not kill yourself worrying, because if you die no one will be bothered about your problems.

6. EXTRAVAGANT SPENDING
In my secondary school days, after my junior West Africa Examination Council examinations, I handled money way out of my capacity and I ended up spending that money stupidly, because I was ignorant of what I was doing. Now, I wish I had an investment idea or saving options. Do not be like me and regret later on. Save and invest your money, look for available investment options and involve yourself. Get only what you NEED, what you want can always wait.

I actually hope I made enough sense to you and you enjoyed this post.
Comment below what you think about this,  and let me know in the comments if I missed something.

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Lots of love from me.


5 THINGS THAT HAVE BECOME A PIRIORITY TO ME


Hey guys, how are y'all doing today? (my intro sucks). I know I have been MIA since August here. I have been dealing with personal issues lately. But not to worry y'all I'm back.
 I have something new for you guys (we should decide a name for y'all).
So I have FINALLY started taking a lot of things in my life seriously, way more than I used too, so I thought to share with you. ENJOY.

1. GOD
This might seem strange to y'all, but I am beginning to take God more seriously than I used to. Please don't get me wrong, I love God. But I haven't been to church consistently or close to him in over 2 years now, due to personal ishs, which I am starting to change and drawing myself closer to him.

2. SKIN CARE
Growing up, I didn't need to bother about my skin, I had fine skin (at least I thought so) and a very smooth and spotless face. At this point in my life, I now have lots of skin reactions, breakouts and the rest of them if I don't stick to my routines, or watch he kinds of products I use, I would end up looking like a mess. So I pay close attention (not so much though) to my Skin and listen to it a lot more now.

3.  READING
I now find reading very important and essential. I used to read a lot, but not as much as I do now. Expanding my vocabularly is now a priority that I try to achieve, almost on a daily basics. My Dad is so proud of me at this point.

4. ORGANIZATION
Okay so those that are very close to me know that I was a very disorganized person, very indecisive and procrastinating. But currently I am starting to develop the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (not to worry it won't be for long). I don't ever want to see my room disorganized or dirty or even the sink. I am now selective of what I do and where I go, which is a big plus for me right now.

5. HEALTH
I used to be a very sick child that my parents got really scared, and I never really cared about my health. Right now, my health is a top priority. I make sure to watch what I eat (not starve my self oh), I try so hard to stay away from junk (but I can't, SUYA especially so I schedule them for twice a week, cheat day ). Staying and eating healthy is now a Priority too.

Mom told me that the reason I now take these things seriously is because I am getting matured (LOL).

I hope you enjoyed, leave a comment in the comment section, and let us know what you are getting MATURED about.